TSS (Feb. 13): Being okay with less & IMM (15)

The Sunday Salon (Feb. 13)

The Sunday Salon.com I think I’ve been spending too much time on the internet. I’ve got too many blogs, and too many social media things that I feel pressured to keep up with, and it’s all gotten really exhausting lately. It feels like so many people are expecting me, as a blog owner, to be doing all these millions of things– keeping up with the news, reading tons of books, expanding my social media network, interacting with readers and fellow bloggers and people in the industry. Basically: putting all my time and effort into being a book blogger. I know no-ones actually SAID any of those things (well, not directly to my face), but I still feel the pressure of all the unsaid stuff anyway.

So what am I going to do about it?

Obviously: I’m going to stay off the internet more. There are things I want to do offline but because I’ve been feeling pressure to be more and more online, that offline stuff has been pushed to the side. I’m not even talking about reading books– which I’ve also been feeling pressured about– but other stuff, like watching movies or doing collages, or even writing in my journal. Lately, I’ve been feeling that if I’m not a) doing something related to my blog or b) reading a book, then I’m “doing something wrong.” Especially since I’ve got this self-imposed books read goal for the year that I can’t match unless I’m reading way more than I’m doing now.

I don’t like feeling like a failure, especially when I’m the one who’s pushing all these goals and stuff on myself. So I’ve come up with the following resolutions:
1. I’m okay with reading less books if I’m doing other fun offline stuff instead. I don’t mind not meeting my yearly reading goal.
2. I’m okay with not being online every moment I’m not reading.

Don’t worry, I’m still going to regularly update my blog. But I’m going to be less on Twitter, and I’m going to be reading less per week (I assume), and I’m going to be doing other awesome things instead.

Do you feel pressured to read and review more than you actually want to? How do you deal with the expectations and responsibilities of having a blog and being a book blogger?

Books read this week:
19. The Book of Tomorrow – Cecelia Ahern [rating: Borrow it] R
20. Bitter Melon – Cara Chow [rating: TBD] R

Books reviewed this week:
09. Brain Jack – Brian Falkner [rating: Borrow it] e
11. Jackaroo – Cynthia Voigt [rating: Buy it]
19. The Book of Tomorrow – Cecelia Ahern [rating: Borrow it] R

Currently reading:
I’m about 33% into Sandman Slim by Richard Kadrey. It reminds me a lot of the Dresden Files series, except with less humor and an angrier protagonist.

In My Mailbox (15)

In My Mailbox is a weekly meme hosted by The Story Siren (who was inspired by Alea of Pop Culture Junkie‘s This Week in Books). Basically you just post about new books that came into your house over the past week, whether in the mail or by getting them at the library or by buying them in a store. Capiche?



Once again, a big “thank you” and welcome to thanks to sponsor Kevin Gerard, author of the Conor and the Crossworlds books, a YA fantasy adventure series! Mr Gerard’s ad can be seen in the top left sidebar, and it’ll be up there for the next three months or so.

I’ve also noticed that people have been clicking on my new BookDepository links, so that’s exciting! I was hoping people would find them useful, and I guess you have. 😀

12 thoughts on “TSS (Feb. 13): Being okay with less & IMM (15)”

  1. Aw, you shouldn’t at all feel like a failure! I’m glad you’re taking the step back you need to balance your life. I love reading your posts but it shouldn’t take over your life!

    1. Thank you! I think really I just need to:
      a) stop being so hard on myself and
      b) not worry about my blog SO much.

      It’s only been a day but I do feel much better not worrying about followers/stats/posts/Twitter/etc. Plus I finished a book today without pressuring myself to actually do so!

  2. I always feel pressure to read more for my blog, but it is what it is. I can completely sympathize with needing to force yourself off the computer–it’s never good to be involved in something to the exclusion of all you need/want to do.

    1. It’s been absolutely ridiculous lately, because I’ll go online to check my email or something and SIX HOURS LATER I’ll be doing some stupid thing instead of something productive. Not that I’m obsessed with productivity, but neither do I want to spend ten hours looking at lolcat pictures.

  3. Hey, man, balance is important. Don’t feel bad about it.

    I work around it by scheduling posts, to be totally honest; once you’ve got a buffer going, you can pick and choose how much time you want to spend in a go, since I can leave the blog on idle for a week if I need to—there’s still content going up. Very useful when I’m in school, interning, acting, and doing this gig, too! 🙂

    1. Normally I would just schedule posts for a week and take a mini-vacation, but I haven’t been feeling the enthusiasm to actually do it, so I’ve been putting it off. I may do it next week for my birthday, though. Depends on if I can get enough energy this week to get all the posts written. 😀

  4. I definitely feel pressure to read more, review more, comment more. . . But I put that pressure on myself. Sooner or later reading won’t feel like a pleasure anymore. It’ll feel like a chore. I’ve been staying off twitter lately but I’ve been playing video games instead. 🙁 I deal with the pressure by taking a step back and asking myself if any of the things I’m doing help me in the long-term. I know reading and blogging do but playing games don’t. Twitter helps until it becomes a distraction. Good luck to you.

    1. Exactly! I don’t feel pressure from other people— I don’t think anyone’s actually said that I need to post more/read more/whatever– but I feel a lot from myself. Part of it’s that competitive thing, but also I’m just silly.

      Video games are relaxing! I remember last year a lot of bloggers were playing Sim City to relax and it helped them a lot. Perhaps if you think of it in that way, as a sort of mini-vacation, it’ll help? Unless you’re thinking the video games is just another timesuck, which can happen.

      Good luck to you, too! Hopefully by next month we’ll both be happy and un-stressed and balanced in all aspects, lol.

  5. I get the pressure. I finally shut down my gaming blog after only posting about four times in a year. I didn’t want to admit to myself that I wasn’t making time to play games. Even though I know it isn’t true, it still feels like the mere presence of the blog is a big blinking sign on the internet that everyone is watching to see how often I update :-).

    With my book blog, I feel like I can’t read fast enough to update on a timely basis. Also, like you, there are times when I would rather be doing something other than reading. So you aren’t the only one who feels that pressure. I applaud you for taking a step back.

  6. I definitely can sympathize with your sentiments. I’ve become okay with being a ‘slower’ blog, with posts mainly going up on the weekends. What I really had to be forceful about was reading less blogs. So I’m subscribing to less blogs on my reader. I feel kind of bad about that, but it has made it much less daunting to catch up with blogs at the end of the work week.

    1. Yeah, I think I’m going to have to do a massive pruning on my feedreader soon, because I’m not reading most of the blogs I’m subscribed to already. “Mark read all” is just about the best thing ever invented, although it DOES make me feel worse for not commenting more. I’m horrible at commenting on other people’s blogs! 🙁

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